HOW TO FORGIVE YOURSELF
As cliche as forgiving yourself sounds, a lot of the problems that exist in the world nowadays stem from unhealed trauma. It's easy to take everything that is done bad to you personal but there is so much power in understanding, that a lot of people cope with their trauma, by self projecting unto others. So for example, someone could be insecure about their skin and because your skin is clear, treat you in a nasty way. You completely unaware of this insecurity, will take their behavior towards you personally, when the truth is that their behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Does that make it right? Absolutely not. But when you master the ability to not take how others treat you personally, you will save yourself from a lot of sleepless nights and tears.
In order to forgive others, it's important to forgive yourself as well. For your sanity, you HAVE to let go of any and all lingering anger, sadness, disbelief, or any other negative emotion that you may feel regarding a past situation. Never allow anyone or anything that is not positive, live in your mind rent free. If you don't, you will always be bound to whatever situation occurred, while the other parties involved are living freely and un-phased.
This is how you let shit go:
1. RELEASE NEGATIVITY
Being honest about what happened. Not only will this help you release negativity, it will also help give you the closure that you need so that you can move forward.
2. ACCEPT THE UNACCEPTABLE
Fully grasp the fact that you can not change the past. You can only focus on moving forward. This understanding will not only set you free, but it will also help you learn how to stop living in the past. The more you focus on the past, the more you manifest that into your future.
3. LEARN YOUR LESSON
Stop and take a second to reflect. Unfavorable circumstances don't come without a lesson attached to it.
4. MOVE FORWARD
You can't change what happened, but you can change your attitude and actions when moving forward. Once you release the negative emotions attached to the circumstance, accept that it happened, pinpoint the lesson that the circumstance brought to you and apply that new gem into your life. You have successfully turned a "unfavorable circumstance" into a favorable one.
You have to release, accept, learn and move on from all things that no longer serve you. Harboring any ill feelings towards someone or something only hurts you in the end. Unresolved resentment is like tying an anchor to your foot and jumping in the ocean. Never give anyone the satisfaction of knowing that you are drowning in what they did to you. You are stronger and wiser now because of what occurred. Turn your scars into tiger stripes and seize the day.
sending you love & light ❤️
- Maya Benberry